hi guys. I didn’t really want to make a post like this but my situation is getting worse by the day and I don’t really know what else to do.
about a month ago I quit my job and came home to California to take some time to myself; things had gone bad with my coworkers and I needed a break. a few days after I got home, dad made the off-hand comment that he had been diagnosed with pulmonary fibrosis, and that his doctor told him not to look it up because it would only scare him. I read up on it and informed him, as strongly as I could, that it was terminal.
I can honestly say that watching the fear creep into his eyes was the one of the most heartbreaking moments of my life.
after that things escalated at a radical pace. by May, 7th, my father could no longer hold down solid food, and by May 12th, he couldn’t even get to the bathroom on his own; just sitting up had become a struggle. my aunts and I had no choice but to take him to the hospital.
on may 14th, we found out that what had been mistakenly diagnosed as pulmonary fibrosis was actually metastatic lung cancer, and that it had spread throughout his liver, bones, and brain. we were told that he had weeks, maybe a month, and we decided to bring him home. my aunt called up a hospice center, who promptly brought a hospital bed and oxygen tank into our small guest house.
only hours later, at two a.m. on may 15th, I received a call that my dad had died in his sleep. he never made it home.
TLDR; four days later, my bank account is in the red, I’m being evicted (he only paid the rent up until the 20th), and I’m entirely dependent on friends and family. dad had no life insurance, no steady income, and little to leave behind. the cremation cost alone is in the hundreds, and I don’t even want to think about the burial and other final expenses.
asking for help doesn’t exactly come easily to me, but I’m really struggling right now. even if you can only afford a quick sketch, please please don’t hesitate to get in touch. you can read my commission page here or just email me at email@example.com and I’ll be sure to respond as promptly as possible.
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